COURTSHIP- Seed Time

"While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest shall not cease." (Genesis 8:22).

There are laws and principles that governs life. One of such laws is the law of sowing and reaping. For every harvest, there is a seed to sow.

People who are enjoying and harvesting good fruits in their marriage are people who had sowed right seeds during their courtship.

To enjoy your marriage and be happy, you must be willing to sow the right seeds.

Nothing good happen by chance. It must be consciously,deliberately and adequately prepared for.

Courtship is a time to consciously sow right seeds if you must enjoy your marriage.

Right Seeds to sow are :
1. Prayer: Courtship time is a time to pray.  pray for your marriage, your children and family. It is a time to team up with your fiancé/fiancée and prophesy positive things into your
future(finance,health,happiness and all good things). Doing this help you to even continue in marriage. Learn to pray together now. Couples that pray together stay together and last forever.

2. Word of God: No marriage succeed without the word of God. The word of God is the manual that contains the principles and instructions needed to succeed in marriage. Courtship time is also a time to consciously sow the seed of the word of God through constant study of the word with your fiancé/fiancée. Setting a time for bible study in your courtship helps you to grow spiritually and afford you the opportunity to share some of the things God has revealed to you through his word in your personal quiet time and fellowship with God. This also help your faith to grow together as the Holy Spirit reveal the true meaning of God's word to you. Doing this in courtship makes it easy for you to continue in marriage.

3. Faithfulness: To be faithful in marriage, you must start sowing the seed in your courtship. If you still double date and feel it's part of enjoyment then you are destroying your marriage unaware. Don't think you can change in marriage. Wedding day is not a magic day. Its what you do during courtship that translate into marriage. No matter what happens, you must decide to stay truthful and faithful to your fiance/fiancee. Many guys/ladies will want to date you even after knowing you are engaged but you must know how to say NO. This will help you to keep your marriage vow when you get married.

4. Forgiveness: Marriage is for two 'forgivers'. Another seed you must sow in your courtship is forgiveness. Offences will surely come but you must learn to forgive. There are times your fiancé/fiancée may upset you and do things you hate the most but you must be able to forgive. Forgiveness is the best form of Love. I've made the decision to forgive no matter what.
So learn to forgive now so that it can be easy for you to forgive in marriage.

5. Self Control: Courtship time is also a time to master your emotion. Self control is very important in life and it is one of the attributes of maturity. If you can't control your feelings, emotion, anger and hunger now it will affect you in marriage.

As a man, learn to control your anger(if you still slap,beat and abuse your fiancee in courtship, you will do worse in marriage). A real man protects his woman.

As a lady, also learn to control your anger(if you still insult and shout at your fiance during courtship, you will do worse in marriage).
Courtship time is also a time to control your hunger for sex. If you can't control yourself now, you won't in marriage.

To the virgins who allow their fiance to go and have sex with other ladies so that he won't disturb you for sex, you are not helping him and you are sowing seed of adultery in your marriage. Say No to every form of sexual sin and be sexually pure.

6. Love and Submission: One of the instructions and commandments in the bible on marriage is Love and submission (Eph 5:22-33). The husbands were commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church and the wives were also commanded to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.
Courtship is a period to start showing love and respect for your man/lady. Shower her lots of love and affection. Show him respect and submit to him now so that it will be easy for you to do in marriage.
Don't let the wrong belief that a man shouldn't love a woman too much make you disobey the word of  God.
Don't let feminism and women's liberation scheme make you believe that submitting to your man makes you a slave or insignificant. Irrespective of your title and accomplishments, ensure you respect and submit to your man.
Your relationship and marriage will definitely blossom if you learn to Love and submit.

Finally, the bible also says
[Gal 6:7]Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Start sowing right seeds today!

Do have a productive day and week ahead.

Mega Shalom!