My precious single friends,
it's great to write you today again. I felt I should share this truth with you
about Love.
When I was in 300L(3rd year)
in the University, there is this female friend of mine who happened to be one
of the closest friend I had. We were so close that we gist a lot, she shares
her personal issues with me and am always excited communicating with her.
Infact she became my study mate and we go to night class together to read
because the female hostel where she stays was just adjacent the male hostel I
was staying. Studying together was of immense benefit to us and it helped us to
encourage ourselves to study even if we
don't feel like. So one day, this lady
called me and said tea, "what do you really want from me and what is
happening between us" she said she can't really understand our closeness
and she needed to be sure and immediately she said that, it came to my
consciousness that we never defined our relationship and I was happy she
brought it up. So I told her emphatically that nothing serious is happening
between us than just FRIENDSHIP, I made her know I enjoyed being with her and
no emotional feelings attached. Of course she is a very good, humble and pretty
lady that most guys would want to propose to but I understood that the issue of
choosing a life partner is more than just the physique and the character. It is
a destiny decision that must be according to God's will and leading. So I never
even thought of proposing to her even though I was single then. And ever since
I made it clear to her, our friendship continue and even gets stronger.
Friends, this scenario is
very common among youths especially students.
Many ladies would have
misconstrued what was happening as being in a relationship instead of asking
for clarity just like my wise friend did.
Don't assume any relationship
so that you won't end up in a great disappointment.
When you discover that a
brother is getting so close to you and always wanting to be with you, call such
brother to order and ask questions. Asking question will help you to know if
the guy is shy or afraid to propose to you or don't even have any intention of
doing so. And if you discover a lady is getting so close to you, its better you
define or redefine your relationship again.
The danger is, everybody will
assume you are engage while you are only hoping the brother is taking his time
and will propose soonest. This can make all brothers that desire to marry you
stay away from you because they will think you are already engage.
NOTE:
1. As a lady, define all your
relationships. If a guy is becoming too close without disclosing his intention,
ask him what he wants from you.
2. Don't be too close to any
guy to the point that people will start to insinuates.
3. Never allow a brother propose
with proverbs or idioms to you. Pretend as if you don't know what he is saying
until he comes straight. For example, if he says, "Let me be the umbrella
on your head", tell him, "I am not in the sun and i do not need an
umbrella".
4. Avoid cooking for brothers
unnecessarily. Most brothers love food and will do anything to keep the source
of their good food, even if it means pretending they are in love.
5. Do not help a brother by
proposing for him. ANY BROTHER THAT IS NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO PROPOSE TO YOU IS NOT
OLD ENOUGH TO BE YOUR HUSBAND. Brothers
should be bold to propose simply, concisely and directly without proverbs or
idioms.
6. Get a direct
"YES" or "NO" from a lady; and do not assume.
Thanks for reading
Shalom!
~Mr TEA~
|Your Relationship Doctor|
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