Maintaining Your Relationship /Marriage

Kurt Vonnegut, Hocus Pocus said "Another flaw in the human character is that everybody wants to build and nobody wants to do maintenance"

There are lots of people who are just interested in starting a relationship or getting married without thinking of how to maintain the relationship/marriage.

Falling in love, starting a relationship and getting married is easy but maintaining the love, reIationship and marriage is the real work.

My final year project work as a Quantity Surveying student was on Facilities Management(FM) and i focused on Maintenance aspect of FM because I noticed one of the problems facing Construction Industry is Poor Maintenance.

I will be relating the findings in my project work to Relationship and Marriage since it's also about building and the principles of building are the same everywhere.

By simple definition, Maintenance is the process of preserving a condition or situation or the state of being preserved.

Research has shown that Africans have not imbibed maintenance culture and it's so disheartening that this poor

Relationship Tips

A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything.
No secrets and no lies. it is called Openness which will help you build trust and security that is needed for relationship to thrive. Be Open to your partner.

LOVE Boomerangs...
If you send it out, it WILL COME RIGHT BACK TO YOU!
This is what Christ taught us in Matthew 7:12. I call it Law of Reciprocity. Whatever you want your partner to do to you, do the same to him/her. if you want him/her to call you, respect you, love you, first call, respect and love him/her.

FORGIVENESS IS HARD but it has to be learned for any beautiful relationship

MARITAL FOUNDATION

When it comes to marital issues; there is little or nothing one can do if you haven't gotten it right from the start. Most of the problems people face in marriage are   results of a faulty foundation.

As an expert in the construction field, I can boldly tell you that FOUNDATION is a very important aspect of every building that you must not joke with or construct anyhow if you don't want to see the collapse of the building. If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psm 11:3).

The type of building you want will determine the FOUNDATION to be laid. The foundation for a sky scrapper will be different from that of a bungalow.

People You Must NOT MARRY

Before you think of getting married and settling down in life, there are some set of people you are not meant to marry if you want to succeed in marriage and have a fulfilled marriage. Below is the list of Ten of people you must not marry. Take note and let it help you in your marital decision.

1. Don't marry outside the will of God. God has a will and His will will not take you to where His grace will not be sufficient for you.

2. Don't marry someone without a job, a liability, a NFA (No Future Ambition), lazy who doesn't want to work and who doesn't want to change. A woman who get married to a jobless man becomes a second wife to hunger. People may sponsor your wedding but won't sponsor your marriage. As faith without work is dead so is marriage without work is frustration, James 2:20, 1Timothy 5:8.

3. Never marry someone without character. Your marriage is your character, Proverbs 31:10. It is not beauty or money that sustains love but GOOD CHARACTER

4. Don't marry someone with bad mentality about marriage and/or who is not willing to change. Always bent on his/her own way of doing things and hates correction. You will be a slave in such relationship.

5. Don't marry someone who causes fear in your spirit, 1 John 4:18. If there is no peace in your spirit, RUN!!!

6. Never marry someone who is only interested in your waist, sex, colour, money, status, beauty, handsomely, etc, 1 Corinthians 6:18. Marry someone who loves you for who you are. True love is not conditional

7. Never marry someone who double , triple, quadruple date. Except he leaves others to focus on you.

8. Never marry a non-believer, sinner or fake Christian, 2 Corinthians 6:14.

9. Don't marry someone already married, Exodus 20:14. God did not bring eve and rosemary to Adam. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

10. Don't marry a wife beater, he/she who lacks self-control, hot-tempered. Except he/she changes/repents. He/she might assault you.
Mind you, don't say you will change or convert the person. It takes God to change a person.
Before you get married work on yourself. Remember, "It is better to be single trusting God to be married than married and expecting to be single again".

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~Mr TEA~
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