WHY YOU NEED GOD'S WILL IN YOUR MARITAL DECISION

[Gen 2:18] And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I WILL  make him an help meet for him.

I sometimes feel bad when I see people start a relationship or make a marital decision based on their feelings, outward appearance/attraction, or the number of years they've been friends.

Relationship/Marriage is not just a status or an event; it is a continuation of God's plan for your life. Your relationship/marriage has a link to destiny or its part of destiny. So when making this decision of whom to marry, you must ensure you consult God in prayer and have a strong conviction so that you don't make a mistake. You need to be sensitive and always be in tune with God so that He can direct you and show you HIS WILL.

Just like Mary was discerning/sensitive

COURTSHIP- Seed Time

"While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest shall not cease." (Genesis 8:22).

There are laws and principles that governs life. One of such laws is the law of sowing and reaping. For every harvest, there is a seed to sow.

People who are enjoying and harvesting good fruits in their marriage are people who had sowed right seeds during their courtship.

To enjoy your marriage and be happy, you must be willing to sow the right seeds.

Nothing good happen by chance. It must be consciously,deliberately and adequately prepared for.

Courtship is a time to consciously sow right seeds if you must enjoy your marriage.

Right Seeds to sow are :
1. Prayer: Courtship time is a time to pray.  pray for your marriage, your children and family. It is a time to team up with your fiancé/fiancée and prophesy positive things into your

Count The Cost

"For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it.  luke 14:28"

Whet it comes to building, the best thing to do is to plan. After deciding to build a house and consulting an architect to design it for you, the next thing is to consult a Quantity Surveyor (Cost expert)  who will help you calculate the total money it will cost you to complete the house taking into account the cost of Materials, Labour, equipment and every other things needed for the project.
Knowing this will help you to know if you can afford to build the house and also help you  to see how your money will be spent on the project (The cost is usually broken down into the different stages of the construction process).

There are so many uncompleted projects around today because many are ignorant of the total cost of completing the project and as soon as they start and continue with the project,  they get to realize that they don't have enough money to finance the project.

The same principles  applies to Relationship and Marriage. Before you start a relationship and commit yourself to the marriage Covenant, there is need for you to COUNT THE COST and examine yourself to see if you have the spiritual, emotional and financial resources to sustain the relationship/marriage.

Maintaining Your Relationship /Marriage

Kurt Vonnegut, Hocus Pocus said "Another flaw in the human character is that everybody wants to build and nobody wants to do maintenance"

There are lots of people who are just interested in starting a relationship or getting married without thinking of how to maintain the relationship/marriage.

Falling in love, starting a relationship and getting married is easy but maintaining the love, reIationship and marriage is the real work.

My final year project work as a Quantity Surveying student was on Facilities Management(FM) and i focused on Maintenance aspect of FM because I noticed one of the problems facing Construction Industry is Poor Maintenance.

I will be relating the findings in my project work to Relationship and Marriage since it's also about building and the principles of building are the same everywhere.

By simple definition, Maintenance is the process of preserving a condition or situation or the state of being preserved.

Research has shown that Africans have not imbibed maintenance culture and it's so disheartening that this poor

Relationship Tips

A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything.
No secrets and no lies. it is called Openness which will help you build trust and security that is needed for relationship to thrive. Be Open to your partner.

LOVE Boomerangs...
If you send it out, it WILL COME RIGHT BACK TO YOU!
This is what Christ taught us in Matthew 7:12. I call it Law of Reciprocity. Whatever you want your partner to do to you, do the same to him/her. if you want him/her to call you, respect you, love you, first call, respect and love him/her.

FORGIVENESS IS HARD but it has to be learned for any beautiful relationship

MARITAL FOUNDATION

When it comes to marital issues; there is little or nothing one can do if you haven't gotten it right from the start. Most of the problems people face in marriage are   results of a faulty foundation.

As an expert in the construction field, I can boldly tell you that FOUNDATION is a very important aspect of every building that you must not joke with or construct anyhow if you don't want to see the collapse of the building. If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psm 11:3).

The type of building you want will determine the FOUNDATION to be laid. The foundation for a sky scrapper will be different from that of a bungalow.