WHY YOU NEED GOD'S WILL IN YOUR MARITAL DECISION

[Gen 2:18] And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I WILL  make him an help meet for him.

I sometimes feel bad when I see people start a relationship or make a marital decision based on their feelings, outward appearance/attraction, or the number of years they've been friends.

Relationship/Marriage is not just a status or an event; it is a continuation of God's plan for your life. Your relationship/marriage has a link to destiny or its part of destiny. So when making this decision of whom to marry, you must ensure you consult God in prayer and have a strong conviction so that you don't make a mistake. You need to be sensitive and always be in tune with God so that He can direct you and show you HIS WILL.

Just like Mary was discerning/sensitive
enough to get engaged to the right guy from the lineage of David/Jesse. You know if Mary hadn’t got engaged to Joseph, she wouldn’t have been qualified to birth the Messiah, virgin or no virgin. Her right engagement connected her to destiny just like Ruth. She never looked at Joseph as a mere carpenter. She saw a great destiny and keyed herself into it.

This also made her kept herself pure as a virgin so that age-long prophecy could be fulfilled through her. She could have dated so many guys and end up being defiled but she knows dating is never God's idea for relationship and she waited for God's time and was espoused(courtship) to Joseph.

Joseph on the other hand never allowed his profession(carpentry) discouraged him from proposing to the right lady. I can only imagine the courage he summoned to approach mary and express his love. And He was man enough to control his sexual urge. He never disturbed mary for sex or threaten to break their relationship if she doesn't allow him have sex with her.
Hope you know that if Joseph had force or cajoled Mary into having sex with her, they wouldn't have been qualified to birth the Messiah.
His relationship with God helped him through.

Dear friends, ensure you take your time to wait on God and let Him help you. Let him direct you. Don't let pressure rush you into a wrong relationship. There is a right man/woman for you who will help you fulfil God's purpose for your life. Remember eve was just the perfect match for adam. Surrender your everything to God like adam did and He will bring you that right man/woman for you.
God wants you to know Him before you know the right man/woman. So take time to get closer to God. Intimacy with Him is ALL you need.

I pray that you will not miss it in Marriage in Jesus name. (Amen)

The Relationship Doctor